• When You Choose the Truth and Lose the Familiar—Butter’s honest return from the battlefield of life

    July 8, 2025
    Uncategorized

    Hey you,

    Yes, you, reading this right now.

    It’s me—Butter. And I know it’s been a while. Too long, actually. And trust me, it wasn’t my intention to vanish like a magician mid-act. But sometimes life gets so heavy, even breathing feels like effort. I didn’t ditch you, I just… broke a little. Quietly.

    A lot has happened. The kind of “lot” that makes you question everything.

    I Took a Stand… and Everything Changed

    You know, when you imagine standing up for something important, you think there’ll be claps. Maybe a slow-motion background score. People thanking you for being brave.

    Well—no music played. No applause. Just silence. Cold, echoing silence.

    I stood up against something no one wanted to talk about—gender-based harassment. Not against a stranger, not some anonymous villain. But against a friend of my best friend.

    Let that sink in.

    Do you know how hard it is to choose truth when it comes wrapped in the face of someone your loved ones trust? When you know the price won’t be just discomfort—it’ll be heartbreak?

    I spoke up. I didn’t whisper. I spoke up. And slowly, I saw people I loved turn away, as if my voice had burned their comfort.

    I wasn’t trying to destroy anyone’s world. I was trying to protect mine. But somehow, that made me the villain in theirs.

    Then Came the Unraveling…

    While I was still nursing that emotional bruise, the second wave hit. At work.

    Financial scams.

    Hospital billing loopholes.

    Purchasing irregularities.

    You name it. I found it. Or rather—it found me.

    I didn’t plan to be the whistleblower. I was just doing my job. But suddenly I was knee-deep in dirt I didn’t create, holding up the mirror while others looked away.

    And let me tell you—when you try to clean a system that’s grown used to the mess, it fights you. It claws back. It tries to break you.

    Worse? It isolates you.

    People I thought were my anchors disappeared.

    Some didn’t even say goodbye.

    And among them… was my best friend.

    He didn’t agree. Or maybe he couldn’t. Maybe he wasn’t ready to accept that someone close to him could be the problem. I get it. I really do. But it still broke me.

    Alone, but Not Abandoned

    In the middle of all this chaos, grief, and gut-wrenching loneliness… I clung to faith.

    There’s something about pain that peels you open. You start to notice the quiet blessings. The people who smile at you without agenda. The ones who text, “Just checking in”, even when you haven’t replied in days.

    New people entered my life. With fresh eyes. With open arms. With no idea of the war I’d just walked out of—but somehow, they made space for me anyway.

    God showed up—in the kind stranger, the new colleague, the little unexpected laugh when I hadn’t smiled in weeks.

    Life Teaches, But It Doesn’t Pamper

    I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how people come and go in life. How sometimes, the ones you thought were permanent end up just being chapters—not the whole story. And maybe that’s okay.

    Maybe we’re not meant to keep everyone forever. Maybe we’re just meant to love them while we have them.

    And when it’s time to part—whether in anger or silence or just inevitable drift—we grieve, we bless, and we keep walking.

    Because that’s life, isn’t it? A long walk with unexpected exits and even more unexpected entries.

    So Here I Am

    A little worn.

    A little wiser.

    Not the same person I was when I last wrote to you—but someone still worth knowing, I hope.

    And if you’re going through something similar—if you’ve lost friendships over truth, or stood alone in the name of what’s right—I want you to know this: you are not alone.

    It hurts. Yes.

    But it heals too. Eventually.

    And someday, you’ll look back and realize: you didn’t lose yourself.

    You found yourself.

    With love (and a heart stitched back with golden thread),

    Butter

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  • “Hangry & Helpless: Butter’s Guide to Beating the Kitchen Crisis Without Eating Like a Hospital Patient”

    June 2, 2025
    Uncategorized

    Hello, fellow hungry hearts,

    Let me just put it out there: Butter is not okay. You know it’s serious when an omelette—a food that quite literally cooks itself if you blink—starts tasting like damp cardboard. The last time I tried to whip up something “quick,” I ended up eating two sad slices of bread while watching a YouTube tutorial on how to boil an egg. (It was 17 minutes long. Seventeen! For boiling an egg! That egg never stood a chance.)

    See, I’ve developed a nasty little habit of heading to the kitchen only when I’m already hungry. Like stomach-growling, world-blurring, hangry-hobbit hungry. And by that time, my decision-making skills have gone out the window. The result? I either:

    Order food (again), Eat dry cereal while standing like a raccoon in front of the fridge, or Attempt to cook something and end up making… a mess. A sad, salty mess.

    So I’ve finally admitted defeat. Or rather—I’ve decided to fight back. Because I can’t let Zomato and Swiggy eat my wallet and my pancreas. I want food that is:

    Simple Nutritious TASTY (!!!) And doesn’t scream “post-surgery diet.”

    So I’ve hacked together some life-saving (and budget-saving) kitchen strategies for anyone out there who’s busy, burned out, and possibly crying over scrambled eggs.

    🥦 1. The Sunday Savior: Prep Now, Thank Yourself Later

    I used to laugh at people who meal prep. “Look at them, so organized,” I’d smirk, while eating instant noodles at 10 PM. But honestly? Prepping one big batch of something once a week is the holy grail.

    Roast a tray of veggies: Carrots, cauliflower, sweet potatoes, bell peppers—toss in olive oil + garlic + any dried herbs. Roast at 200°C for 30-40 minutes. Boil a few eggs and store them in the fridge. Instant protein bombs. Cook a big batch of grains: Rice, quinoa, or millets—pick your poison. Marinate some paneer/chicken/tofu and store it in the fridge. It takes five minutes to sauté later and feels gourmet.

    Future You is gonna cry tears of gratitude. Past You can go nap.

    🍛 2. Upgrade Your Instant Food Without Destroying Your Soul

    Listen, I’m not here to snatch your Maggi. But let’s make it a little more respectable:

    Throw in frozen peas, chopped carrots, or spinach. Crack an egg in there—BOOM, protein. Sprinkle some sesame seeds or a dash of lemon juice at the end for a cheffy touch.

    It’s like giving your comfort food a glow-up. Think lazy, but classy.

    🥗 3. Build-Your-Own Bowls (Butter-Style)

    When in doubt, assemble, don’t cook.

    Grab a bowl and pile in:

    A grain (rice, couscous, millets) A protein (boiled eggs, canned beans, sautéed tofu) Some veggies (raw, roasted, or even leftover sabzi) A dressing (yogurt + garlic + lemon, or even hummus if you’re feeling exotic)

    Voila! A bowl that slaps, and takes less time than scrolling through food delivery apps.

    🌮 4. Make a Wrap, Not a Fuss

    Tortilla, roti, or even a humble paratha—wrap anything in it and suddenly it feels like you’ve made an effort.

    Stuff it with:

    Leftover curry and some onions Omelette + cheese Sprouts + chutney + raw veggies

    It’s hand-held happiness. No cutlery. No cleanup. Just vibes.

    🍲 5. Instant Soup for the Real You

    Soup sounds boring, but not if you jazz it up:

    Buy a decent-quality soup base (store-bought is fine). Add frozen corn, spinach, noodles, or even shredded chicken. Add chili flakes or squeeze in lime juice. BAM. Soul-soothing.

    Pro tip: Soup is magical when your motivation is in the drain but your stomach is on fire.

    ☕ Bonus: Snack Smarter, Not Sadder

    Some Butter-approved snacks:

    Roasted chana (Indian grandma approved) Fruit + peanut butter (a love story) Cheese cubes and olives (fancy, but low-effort) Greek yogurt with honey + chia (sounds healthy because it is)

    In Conclusion: You Deserve Better Than Boring Food & Burnt Eggs

    So here’s the deal, dear friend: stop waiting until your stomach screams before you feed it. No one makes good decisions in a hanger storm. Stock your kitchen like it’s a mini café, set yourself up with easy hacks, and remember—flavor doesn’t have to mean fancy.

    And if your omelette still turns out like a tortilla, just call it a “rustic egg pancake” and move on. We’re not chasing perfection. We’re chasing peace, good taste, and a stomach that doesn’t growl during Zoom calls.

    Happy hacking,

    Butter (Certified Burnt-Egg Survivor) 🧈

    Would you like me to whip up a printable one-pager of these hacks for your fridge? Or maybe a cute “Butter’s Lazy Kitchen” checklist?

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  • How Much Work Is Too Much Work? Asking for a Butter.

    May 17, 2025
    health, life, Work

    Dear friend,

    It’s Saturday. I’m horizontal on the couch, staring into the middle distance, holding a coffee I have zero intention of drinking but every intention of emotionally supporting. I’ve survived the week. Barely. My brain? It’s somewhere between “blue screen of death” and “need to update software but too tired.”

    So naturally, I found myself asking the big existential question that bubbles up when your calendar has been a crime scene all week: How much work is too much work? Or more importantly, how much work is actually necessary, scientifically speaking, before we start spiraling into burnout, anxiety, or worse — becoming LinkedIn influencers?

    Let’s unpack.

    First: What Does Science Say?

    Science, our dear bespectacled friend, has actually been waving red flags about overwork for a while now. Numerous studies suggest that working more than 40 hours a week consistently is associated with increased risks of heart disease, anxiety, depression, sleep disturbance, and the kind of existential dread that has you researching if goats can be emotional support animals.

    In fact, the sweet spot? About 6 hours a day. That’s what a growing body of research is whispering seductively into the ears of burnt-out millennials and Gen Zs across the globe. Turns out, our brains weren’t designed to focus intensely for 8–10 hours. Cognitive performance peaks, and then we’re basically just typing and clicking for vibes.

    And if you’re doing mental work? The invisible kind where you’re solving problems, making decisions, or constantly talking yourself down from starting an email with “per my last message” — oh honey, that’s even more draining. Emotional labor and decision fatigue are real. You might log off at 6, but your brain? She’s still at work, replaying meetings and overthinking that one Slack message that just said “sure.”

    Meanwhile, in Other Countries…

    Let’s take a peek across the globe, shall we?

    France has a 35-hour work week (and let’s be real, a 2-hour lunch and wine o’clock culture probably help too).

    Sweden has experimented with 6-hour workdays, and the results? People were happier, healthier, and even more productive.

    Japan, bless their overachieving souls, are infamous for “karoshi” — death by overwork. They’re trying to dial it back now, but that culture of hustle hustle hustle leaves scars.

    The Netherlands? They average around 29 hours a week and are consistently ranked among the happiest nations. Coincidence? I think not.

    And the U.S.? Well. We’re still out here glorifying 80-hour work weeks and calling burnout a badge of honor like it’s a subscription service.

    So… what gives?

    The Blurry Line Between “Off” and “Still Mentally Working”

    Here’s the kicker. Even when we’re technically off work, we’re often not off duty. We’re mentally sorting to-do lists while brushing our teeth. Drafting emails in the shower. Thinking about deliverables in the middle of a dinner date. Our brain is like that one friend who insists on doing just one more thing before bed and then somehow ends up reorganizing the whole kitchen at 1am.

    The mental weight doesn’t vanish when we close our laptops. That’s why real rest takes intention. It’s not just logging out — it’s logging off mentally, emotionally, spiritually.

    We need boundaries. Like real, dramatic, neon-lit boundaries.

    So What’s the Right Blend, Butter?

    I think — and hear me out — we need to start measuring success less by hours and more by impact. By sustainability. By how whole we feel when the day is done.

    Some workdays might stretch. That’s life. But if every day is an uphill climb powered by caffeine and cortisol, then something’s out of whack. The right blend is probably:

    6 focused hours of thoughtful, meaningful work 2 hours of mindless emails and pretending to understand Excel formulas Time OFF that’s truly OFF (read: no checking emails on the toilet, please) And an afternoon snack that makes you feel like a kid again

    Because if we’re not protecting our brains, our hearts, our selves… what are we working for?

    Closing Thoughts from the Couch

    So this weekend, I’m doing a vibe check. Not just with my schedule, but with myself. Was that much work really necessary? Or was I just trying to outrun a feeling of inadequacy with a full calendar?

    Next week, I’m trying something new: working like a European, resting like a cat, and only stressing about things after 10am.

    We deserve to work well, not endlessly. And remember, rest isn’t a reward. It’s fuel.

    Love,

    Butter (currently in a committed relationship with her couch blanket)

    Want to discuss burnout, dream up your own ideal work week, or share your work horror stories (there will be snacks)? Let’s chat in the comments, dear friend.

    And if you made it to the end of this, close your laptop. Go outside. Touch a tree. You earned it.

    Would you like a few fresh topic ideas for this weekend’s writing spree too?

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  • Guide to financial health..

    May 11, 2025
    finance, life

    You might be earning well, staying on top of responsibilities, and still feel uneasy when it comes to money.

    That quiet stress? It adds up.
    It affects how you #plan, how you spend #money, and how much peace you carry into each day.

    What I once dismissed as “normal” turned out to be signs I shouldn’t have ignored. I started recognizing patterns, ones that many #professionals experience but rarely talk about.

    Not having enough is one thing.
    But not feeling in control of what you have? That’s a different kind of pressure.

    If any of this feels familiar, now is a good time to pause and check in with yourself.

    I’ve put together a guide that breaks this down with real stories, simple frameworks, and clear steps because #financialwellbeing should feel achievable, not overwhelming.

    Guide_to_Financial_Health_1746781110.pdfDownload

    If that sounds like something you or someone you care about needs right now, you can grab your copy..

    https://notionpress.com/in/read/a-doctor-s-guide-to-financial-health

    For Indian readers: https://www.amazon.in/dp/B0F3KXSY2K

    For Global readers:

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  • “Burnt Toast, Burnt Butter: How I’m Managing Burnout Without Ghosting My Life”

    May 7, 2025
    health, journal, life

    🍞 PART 1: Burnt Toast Feelings – Butter’s Been Cooked

    Friends, I’m tired. Like, existentially, cosmically, deep-in-my-marrow tired. In the last 24 hours, I’ve ping-ponged across cities like I’m on a world tour (without the private jet or the fan base), wrapped up a week that felt like three rolled into one, and to top it off—guess who didn’t get to take a single day off?

    Yep. Butter, served hot and overwhelmed.

    I wanted to ghost everyone, including myself. But that’s not an option—I’ve got work, bills, a brain that won’t quit spinning, and zero clones (tragic, I know). So instead of collapsing into a dramatic heap (tempting), I decided to do something wild: manage my burnout without torching my life or quitting everything.

    Here’s what’s working for me so far, and I pinky promise these are all backed by science and Butter-approved.

    🧈 PART 2: Buttering the Burn – Real Stuff That’s Actually Helping

    1. Micropause Like Your Life Depends on It
      ✨ Science says: Short breaks (even 1–5 minutes) reduce cortisol, help regulate breathing and heart rate, and improve concentration.
      🧠 Butter says: I literally set a timer and stare at a tree. Or my tea. Or a wall. Whatever. Just five minutes of not doing. It’s like a CTRL+ALT+DEL for your brain.
    2. Body Before Brain, Always
      ✨ Science says: Physical exhaustion fuels mental burnout. 15–20 minutes of low-impact movement (yoga, stretching, a walk that’s less doom and more stroll) boosts endorphins.
      🧠 Butter says: I now treat stretching like brushing my teeth—non-negotiable. It’s also the only time I remember I have hamstrings.
    3. The “No-List”
      ✨ Science says: Cognitive overload = burnout. Writing down things you won’t do helps prioritize and reduce decision fatigue.
      🧠 Butter says: My no-list has gems like “No emails after 8pm,” “No skipping meals,” and “No being nice to calendar invites I hate.” I need boundaries more than I need caffeine (and I really need caffeine).
    4. Zoom Out to Zoom In
      ✨ Science says: Journaling or even a 1-sentence reflection daily helps reduce burnout by reframing stress and reactivating purpose.
      🧠 Butter says: I ask myself one thing every night: “What made today suck less?” It helps me see the flickers of joy—even if it was just a perfect egg or a good meme.
    5. Lean on Your Loaf (a.k.a. People)
      ✨ Science says: Social connection combats burnout and boosts oxytocin (your stress-busting hormone friend).
      🧠 Butter says: I’ve started texting one friend a day just to say something random like “Remember when we thought adulthood would be fun?” It reminds me I’m not doing this solo. Neither are you.

    🍯 PART 3: Toast Isn’t a Failure – It’s a Reminder

    Here’s the wild truth I had to swallow: burnout isn’t proof that I’m weak or broken. It’s proof that I’ve been trying—maybe a little too hard, maybe without enough support, but always with heart.

    I can’t promise I won’t hit the edge again, but I can promise I’ll keep choosing to pause, to breathe, to ask for help, and to stop glamorizing being a human pressure cooker.

    If you’re reading this with tired eyes and an even more tired soul, I hope you do something gentle today—drink water like it’s magic, tell someone how you feel, and sit still for one full, glorious minute. You’re not behind. You’re just a little crispy. Like me.

    💬 Tell me, friend—what’s your go-to burnout balm? Let’s build our own recipe for restoration, one tired toast at a time.

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  • Butter’s Lost Smile (And the Tiny Flame Still Burning)

    May 4, 2025
    journal, life

    Hey friend,

    It’s me—Butter. And today, I’m writing this not from a place of wisdom or witticisms, but from the bottom of a very tired heart. The kind of tired that isn’t about sleep, you know? The kind that sits in your chest like a stone, heavy and cold. The kind that makes your favorite songs sound off-key and your coffee taste like cardboard. Yep. That kind.

    Lately, I’ve been feeling like a ghost version of myself. New job, new city, new everything—but the same old me, just trying to stay afloat. And it’s weird, because on paper, everything looks okay. I’m “settled.” I’m “functioning.” I’m “doing well.” But inside? Butter’s lost her damn smile.

    I don’t have my people here. No one to hug me at the end of a long day. No inside jokes, no warm silences, no shared history. Just polite small talk and the humming loneliness of an unfamiliar apartment. And work? Oh, friend… Let’s just say the office vibes are more Game of Thrones than The Office. Every day I put on my best “I’m fine” face while my soul secretly screams into a pillow.

    I’ve been doubting myself. My worth. My place in this world. Like, am I really good enough to be here? Or am I just pretending? Faking it so well even I’m starting to believe the illusion?

    But here’s the thing: even in the middle of this fog, some tiny voice inside me—super annoying, a bit squeaky—whispers, “Butter, you’ve been here before. Not this place exactly, but this feeling. And you survived it. Remember?”

    And it’s right. I have been here before. We all have. And we made it through, dragging our tired hearts and puffy eyes across the finish line. We made it by clinging to crumbs of hope and stringing them together like fairy lights to guide us forward.

    So here’s what I’m reminding myself (and maybe you need to hear it too):

    1. Feeling Lost Doesn’t Mean You’re Failing

    Being lost is sometimes just the process of finding your new direction. You’re not broken—you’re becoming. This ache? This doubt? It’s part of growth. Ugh, yes, I know. Growth sucks. But also, it’s the only way we stretch into the people we’re meant to be.

    2. You Are Still You

    Even when you feel invisible, when no one sees your efforts or claps for your quiet victories—you are still valuable. Still kind. Still brilliant. You are not less just because you feel less.

    3. You Don’t Have to Be Brave All the Time

    Sometimes courage looks like crying in the shower and still showing up the next morning. Sometimes it looks like texting someone, “Hey, I’m not okay.” Or eating cereal for dinner because that’s all you could manage. That counts. It all counts.

    4. You Belong, Even When It Feels Like You Don’t

    Imposter syndrome is a filthy liar. You deserve to take up space, even if your voice shakes. You deserve to learn, to grow, to be heard. And one day—maybe not today—you’ll believe that with your whole chest.

    5. Keep a Tiny Spark Lit

    Even when your smile goes missing. Even when everything feels dull. Protect that little flame inside you. It’s okay if it’s small. It’s okay if it flickers. Just don’t let the world snuff it out. Fan it with books, walks, music, hugs (even virtual ones), sunsets, whatever keeps you tethered to the truth: you are not done yet.

    So yeah, Butter’s a bit of a mess right now. But you know what? I’ve decided to keep going. Not because I’m fearless, but because I’ve come too damn far to give up now. And you, dear friend reading this—you’ve come too far too.

    We’re allowed to crumble sometimes. But we’re also allowed to rise again, mascara-streaked and slightly feral, but still rising.

    With love and a shaky heart,

    Butter

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  • Butter, Building a Hospital, and the Perfectly Imperfect Mess

    May 1, 2025
    life, Work

    So this morning, I woke up all zen, you know? Did my stretches—in reality, checked my phone in bed. Visualized a productive day—in actual life, I was manifesting ceramic teacups. And told myself, Butter, today you will be calm, composed, and in control.

    Plot twist: life had other plans.

    Let me tell you about the day I became the unofficial project manager, tea cup procurement officer, painter wrangler, and part-time plumber whisperer of our brand new, baby-hospital-in-progress.

    Scene 1: The Cup Catastrophe

    I had this vision—our cozy little hospital pantry with neat white ceramic teacups, something between “doctor’s lounge” and “Pinterest board.” The kind that says, we care about your caffeine experience.

    What do I get?

    Paper. Cups.

    Thin, guilt-tripping, collapsing-under-a-second-refill paper cups. I said “ceramic.” I was very clear. C-E-R-A-M-I-C.

    And once that was sorted (so I thought), the next delivery shows up: a stack of cups. No saucers. No tray. No elegance. Just raw, orphaned mugs.

    I felt like a disappointed aunt at a wedding where the caterer forgot the dessert.

    Scene 2: The Saga of the Ceiling (and Everything Below It)

    I called the false ceiling team—again. And again.

    “Ma’am, tomorrow pakka.”

    They’ve been saying “tomorrow” since 2024.

    Meanwhile, the aluminium team did show up. Progress! But oh—what’s this? No high voltage extension cord. Because apparently, the idea of being able to plug in your tools is optional in construction now.

    And the painting crew? Oh my sweet, careless Picassos.

    They’ve gone rogue.

    White paint everywhere—except the walls. My clean tiles are now a Jackson Pollock tribute. I think I stepped in “eggshell white” and dragged it into radiology.

    Scene 3: Plumbing the Depths of Despair

    Enter the plumber.

    No, wait—enter the entire corridor now turned into a puddly, pipe-filled disaster zone that smells suspiciously like ambition and old socks.

    He’s drilling like we’re mining for gold. There are tools on every surface. A wrench in the potted plant. A suspicious hose sneaking into the electrical room. Chaos, but make it plumbing.

    Meanwhile: Butter vs. Burnout

    At this point, I’m barely holding it together with coconut water and passive-aggressive WhatsApp messages. My inner monologue sounds like:

    This is fine. Everything is fine. Breathe in. Breathe out. You are calm. You are a lotus in a field of jackhammers.

    But you know what?

    Even in this mess—this maddening, avoidable, paper-cupped mess—I’m still grateful.

    Because I get to build something from scratch.

    I get to create a space where people will heal, where my team will laugh over bad tea in beautiful cups eventually, and where all this chaos will one day be a funny story.

    Not today. But one day.

    Butter’s Pro Tips for Staying Calm and Enjoying Chaos (or at least pretending to):

    Talk to yourself like you’re your own intern. “It’s okay, darling. You’re doing your best. Now go yell politely at the electrician.”

    Find one tiny thing to celebrate. Even if it’s just that nobody fell into the plumbing pit today. That’s a win.

    Keep one sacred snack hidden somewhere. Mine is a chocolate bar in my desk drawer labeled emergency only. It’s never seen a non-emergency.

    Pretend you’re in a documentary. Look straight at the imaginary camera when something ridiculous happens. Raise your eyebrows. Sip your tea. Let them feel the drama. Remember: The chaos is the story. This is the good part. The hilarious, messy, beautifully human part you’ll laugh about someday. With ceramic cups. And saucers.

    So here’s what I’m telling myself (and maybe you need to hear it too):

    Perfection is overrated.

    Progress looks like chaos before it looks like beauty.

    And ceramic cups will come. Eventually. With saucers. Maybe even a tray.

    But for now?

    I’ll sip my tea—paper cup and all—and keep going. Because hospitals (like life) aren’t built in a day.

    Even when Butter’s doing all the building.

    Want me to turn this into a carousel post or a story series for your Instagram too?

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  • A DOCTOR’S GUIDE TO FINANCIAL HEALTH

    April 30, 2025
    finance, Uncategorized

    Why do so many professionals earn well but still feel anxious about #money by the end of each month?

    I asked myself this question not once, but repeatedly while treating patients, managing hospital teams, and even reflecting on my own life. The more I looked around, the more I noticed a pattern: steady incomes, strong degrees, and yet a persistent sense of #financialstress.

    That question became the starting point for something much bigger.

    Today, I’m deeply grateful (and a little nervous!) to share something close to my heart, A Doctor’s Guide to Financial Health is now out in the world.

    This book is for professionals and families who have done all the “right” things—education, careers, responsibilities, but still find themselves unsure about money, caught in #EMI loops, or simply exhausted by the constant worry of making ends meet.

    As a doctor and hospital administrator, I’ve seen how financial stress quietly impacts mental and physical health. This book blends personal experiences, real-life examples, and simple strategies to help you:

    ✔️ Diagnose the hidden signs of financial stress

    ✔️ Build a #budgetingsystem that doesn’t feel restrictive

    ✔️ Understand debt, compounding, and how to plan for financial peace

    ✔️ Shift your mindset from survival to stability with clarity

    It’s not written for finance experts. It’s written for you, the professional who wants peace of mind, without spreadsheets or jargon.

    If that sounds like something you or someone you care about needs right now, you can grab your copy..

    https://notionpress.com/in/read/a-doctor-s-guide-to-financial-health

    For Indian readers:

    https://www.amazon.in/dp/B0F3KXSY2K

    For Global readers:

    https://a.co/d/9bvE5TD

    https://amzn.eu/d/abBJ7bL

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  • Happy World Book Day! Let’s Get Lost (In a Good Way)

    April 23, 2025
    Uncategorized

    Dear friend,

    It’s World Book Day! The one day when sniffing the pages of a paperback in public is socially acceptable. The one day when quoting a fictional wizard, a grumpy detective, or a teenage vampire gets you admiration instead of side-eyes. The day when bookstores feel like sacred temples and libraries smell like home. Honestly, it’s my kind of holiday.

    Now, if you’re thinking, “Eh, I haven’t read a book in a while,” let me stop you right there. First of all—same. Life gets busy, screens are shiny, and our attention spans are shorter than that one haiku I wrote in high school. But reading is magic. And not just Hogwarts magic. I mean the kind of magic that quietly rewires your brain, expands your heart, and sometimes makes you cry in a coffee shop because the plot twist hit harder than your ex ever did.

    Books Are Basically Time Machines, Teleporters, and Therapists

    Books are sneaky little things. You think you’re just flipping pages, but suddenly you’re in 18th century France, running from the guillotine. Or you’re in space. Or you’re in someone else’s messy, beautiful, complicated life that looks nothing like yours—but also exactly like yours.

    And it’s not just about reading other people’s words. World Book Day is also about writing them. So if you’ve got a little story living in your head—maybe about the time you accidentally ghosted your dentist or fell in love with someone at the airport (aisle 4, near the Cinnabon)—write it down! The world needs more voices like yours. Even the weird ones. Especially the weird ones.

    If You Don’t Like Books, You Just Haven’t Met Your Book Yet

    Maybe you think you don’t like reading. That’s cool. But let me ask you this—have you tried reading:

    A murder mystery with a retired cat detective? A rom-com where the main couple hates each other over sourdough starter? A memoir written entirely in poems? A self-help book that actually makes you laugh instead of cringe?

    There’s a book for every single mood. Grieving? There’s a book. Falling in love? There’s a book. Existential dread at 3 AM because life is confusing and also your rent is due? Yep—there’s a book for that too.

    Start Small. Start Silly. Start Anywhere.

    You don’t have to finish “War and Peace” by next Tuesday. You can start with 10 pages a day. Or one paragraph. Or just open the dang book and admire the font for a bit. That counts. Don’t let BookTok shame you with their color-coded reading goals and six-book weekends. This is not the Olympics. This is a soft, cozy, curious little journey—just for you.

    So this World Book Day, let’s do something rebellious. Let’s slow down. Let’s disconnect. Let’s wander into stories. Let’s write badly and read joyfully and support our favorite indie bookstore with wild abandon (and maybe buy that pretty journal we’ll never use because, aesthetics).

    Books don’t just help us escape. They help us arrive—more fully, more thoughtfully, more joyfully—right where we are.

    Happy World Book Day, friend. Now go crack a spine (a book spine, please), and let the magic begin.

    Love always,

    Butter

    Want some book recs or writing prompts? Drop me a comment or come raid my bookshelves (they’re alphabetized only in theory).

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  • When the Math Works but Life Doesn’t: The Tricky Risks We Take with Money

    April 21, 2025
    finance, life

    Hey friends,

    Let me tell you a little story about my friend—let’s call him Sunny, because he always sees sunshine even when there’s a storm brewing. Now, Sunny’s buzzing with excitement because he’s planning to buy a brand-new Toyota Fortuner. (If you just whispered “that’s fancy,” you’re not alone.)

    But here’s the twist: he’s buying it on 100% EMI. The whole thing is riding on a business plan—he’ll give the car to a rental company, use that income to pay off the loan, and voilà—a car that pays for itself and adds a little extra income on the side. Genius, right?

    Well… maybe not.

    On paper, this plan looks flawless. The numbers line up, the projections are neat, and the Excel sheet even has some green boxes that scream profit. But here’s where Butter (me) raises an eyebrow. Not because I don’t want my friend to win big—but because I’ve seen what happens when the math works perfectly, but life… doesn’t.

    Let’s talk about the real stuff—the tricky, often-ignored side of financial risk that no calculator or confident salesman can prepare us for.

    1. The Pandemic Problem: When the World Presses Pause

    Remember 2020? Yeah, how can we forget. Car rental businesses crashed, travel halted, and people clung to every rupee. If Sunny had owned that Fortuner back then, his grand rental plan would’ve sunk faster than my willpower near a plate of hot gulab jamun.

    Business models that only work in ideal conditions are fragile. If a single unexpected event (hello, global pandemic, or even just a bad tourist season) can derail your whole plan, then the plan isn’t as solid as you think.

    2. Cash Flow Is Not Always a Flow

    Here’s the truth: most small businesses—even established ones—don’t have consistent income every single month. Some months are brilliant, others barely break even. Rental businesses are no exception. Delays in payments, off-season slumps, car maintenance, minor accidents (because hello, Indian roads)—they all eat into that income Sunny’s depending on.

    And guess what? The bank doesn’t care. That EMI is due on the same day, every month, rain or shine, festive season or flu season.

    3. What’s Plan B? No, Seriously. What Is It?

    This is the part that really worries me: if the rental business flops or just dips for a few months, Sunny doesn’t have enough salary to cover that EMI. Which means he’s betting the house (or, okay, the car) on one income stream that isn’t guaranteed. That’s not investing—that’s gambling with seatbelts on.

    Every good financial plan needs a backup. Whether that’s savings, a side hustle, family support, or just plain caution—Plan A should never be the only plan.

    4. The Emotional Toll of “Stuck” Decisions

    Let’s say things do go south. Now what? Sunny’s stuck paying for a car he can’t afford and can’t sell without a loss. That kind of pressure eats you up. Financial stress has a sneaky way of draining your mental health, straining relationships, and making every decision feel like it’s weighed down with guilt and fear.

    And honestly? No “passive income” is worth losing your peace of mind.

    5. Why We Romanticize Risk (and Why That’s Dangerous)

    I get it. We all want to grow. Earn more. Be financially independent. And sometimes, big risks lead to big rewards. But there’s a dangerous glamorization of risk these days—especially the kind that involves “no investment, high return” or “let the asset pay for itself” dreams.

    Real financial growth is steady, informed, and comes with safety nets. Not just hopeful spreadsheets.

    So What’s the Lesson Here?

    If you’re planning a big financial move—whether it’s buying a car, starting a business, or taking a loan—ask yourself:

    What happens if this income stream disappears for 3 months? Can I still sleep at night if this plan doesn’t work? Is there a Plan B, C, and possibly D? Am I mistaking optimism for preparation?

    The goal isn’t to kill your dreams. It’s to protect them.

    And Sunny, if you’re reading this: I love you, buddy. I’m rooting for you. But please don’t let a shiny new SUV turn into a heavy financial burden. Make sure the sunshine you see isn’t just a glare off a risky plan.

    Love,

    Butter

    P.S. —have you ever taken a financial risk that felt solid but ended up a mess? Or maybe one that paid off in ways you never expected? Tell me everything in the comments. Let’s talk money, mistakes, and what we wish someone had told us sooner.

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