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“Mayfair Dreams, Real-Life Nightmares: What If I Had Witchy Powers?”

January 27, 2025

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So, last night, I binge-watched Mayfair Witches with all the intensity of someone who thinks they might discover a latent family secret involving spellbooks and cauldrons. I woke up this morning, still in a slight hangover haze—not from wine, my friends, but from the sheer power-trip fantasies. What if I were a witch? What would I do with my powers?

Spoiler alert: It would absolutely end in chaos. Allow me to break down the options, their appeal, and why they’d probably lead to my untimely magical demise.

Power #1: Teleportation (a.k.a. Poof! I’m Gone)

Why I’d Choose It: Let’s face it, I hate traffic. The thought of snapping my fingers and being on a beach in Bali while everyone else is still queuing for their overpriced airport latte? Chef’s kiss.

The Downside:
Here’s the thing: I’d probably teleport into the wrong place. Imagine trying to poof into Paris but ending up in someone’s closet. “Oh, hello there! Don’t mind me, just escaping a bad hair day.” Or worse, I’d forget to specify a location and end up mid-air. Physics and I aren’t exactly on speaking terms.

Deadly result? Flattened like a pancake or burned at the stake after appearing unannounced in someone’s royal treasury.

Power #2: Mind Reading (a.k.a. The Gossip Goldmine)

Why I’d Choose It: Knowing what everyone is really thinking? Sign me up! “Oh, Karen doesn’t actually love my homemade cookies? Guess who’s not getting invited to the next potluck!”

The Downside:
Turns out, I probably don’t want to know what people are thinking. Can you imagine sitting at brunch, casually sipping your mimosa, and suddenly hearing, “Wow, she’s wearing that?” Instant insecurity spiral. Plus, there’s no off switch. My brain would become a dumping ground for every intrusive thought within a mile radius.

Deadly result? My head literally exploding from mental overload.

Power #3: Time Manipulation (a.k.a. Ctrl+Z for Life)

Why I’d Choose It: Missed deadlines? Not a problem. Said something awkward in a meeting? Rewind. Want to relive that perfect first date? Replay, baby!

The Downside:
Time is a finicky mistress. I’d probably go back to fix something minor, like tripping in front of my crush, and accidentally erase my entire existence. Or, I’d create a butterfly effect where me choosing pancakes over waffles one morning leads to global catastrophe.

Deadly result? Either stuck in an eternal time loop (Groundhog Day style) or wiped off the timeline like a bad typo.

Power #4: Shape-Shifting (a.k.a. Become My Cat)

Why I’d Choose It: Oh, the possibilities! I could be anyone, anywhere. Turn into a bird and spy on people. Become a celebrity for a day. Morph into my cat to understand why she stares at the wall for hours.

The Downside:
What if I forget how to turn back? Imagine being stuck as a cat and realizing you now have to eat kibble and use a litter box. Also, knowing me, I’d probably shapeshift into someone famous, only to be immediately caught because I have no idea how to act like them. “Wait, Rihanna doesn’t drink hot chocolate with marshmallows in public?”

Deadly result? Forever stuck as a pigeon dodging cars in a busy intersection.

Power #5: Summoning Anything (a.k.a. The Lazy Witch’s Dream)

Why I’d Choose It: Need pizza? Summon it. Forgot your laptop at home? Bam, in your hands. Want Beyoncé to perform at your birthday party? Consider it done.

The Downside:
There’s no such thing as free magic. What if everything I summon comes with a curse? That pizza? Turns out it’s haunted. Beyoncé? She’s furious because I interrupted her vacation. And summoning endless things would make me the target of every shady wizard looking to steal my powers.

Deadly result? Crushed under the weight of my poorly thought-out summoning spree.

The Final Verdict

I think it’s safe to say that no matter what power I’d choose, it would probably end in disaster—fun, chaotic disaster, but disaster nonetheless. Maybe it’s better that I stay a powerless mortal, watching witches on TV and daydreaming about the life I could have had if I weren’t prone to magical mishaps.

But hey, if anyone wants to try their hand at enchanting my coffee to stay warm indefinitely, I’m all ears. Just don’t curse it, okay?

What about you? If you were a witch, what power would you choose? And more importantly, how long do you think it would take before it backfires spectacularly? Share your thoughts in the comments, fellow magical daydreamers! 🌙✨

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When the Mean People Try to Live Rent-Free in Your Head

January 26, 2025

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You know that feeling when someone’s negativity gets so deep under your skin, you start drafting comeback speeches in the shower? Yeah, that was me the other day. A colleague of mine, someone I thought was at least decently civil, decided to spice up their day by turning one of my most virtuous deeds (yes, virtuous!) into some twisted, gossip-worthy tale. And let me tell you, it worked—because the drama spread like wildfire.

At first, I was all shock and protest. How could they?! What kind of person takes kindness and serves it back as cruelty? My brain was buzzing with indignation and hurt, a perfect storm of “How dare they?” and “What did I do to deserve this?” But then came the real kicker.

By the end of Day Two, after hours (okay, maybe days) of mentally replaying the situation and crafting imaginary scenarios where I came out on top like some moral superhero, I had an epiphany.

I realized something painfully obvious but deeply freeing: I was letting this person and their negativity take up way too much real estate in my head. And honestly? My 100-year-old deathbed self—the wiser, softer, no-time-for-nonsense version of me—would be shaking her head in disappointment. I could practically hear her voice: “Butter, you’re wasting your precious life thinking about an idiot and their mean acts. Get it together, girl.”

So, I decided to get it together. And here’s how.

1. The Negative People No-Entry Plan

First, I made a mental list of the people who matter in my life—people whose opinions, love, and support I value. (Spoiler: Mean colleagues didn’t make the list.) This simple exercise helped me immediately reframe the situation. Why was I giving power to someone who wasn’t even in my inner circle?

2. Perspective Check: They’re Not That Powerful

Here’s a reality check I had to give myself: Someone spreading lies about me doesn’t make the lies true. Their actions don’t define me; my actions do. People who know me—truly know me—will see through the nonsense. And as for everyone else? Well, not everyone’s going to like me, and that’s okay.

3. The “Will This Matter in 5 Years?” Rule

This one hit hard. In five years, will I even remember this drama? Will it matter? Probably not. So why let it ruin five minutes, five hours, or even five days of my current life? I’ve got bigger dreams, people! Letting negativity steal my time is like handing over my most precious currency to someone I wouldn’t trust with a dollar.

4. Boundaries for My Mental Space

I also decided to set some firm boundaries—not just for people around me but for myself. Negative thoughts? Not welcome. Overthinking? Eviction notice served. Anytime my mind starts circling back to this nonsense, I ask myself: “Do I really want to spend my energy on this?” And then I redirect my focus to something more positive, like a goal I’m working on or a moment of gratitude.

5. The Freedom of Letting Go

Here’s the magic: letting go doesn’t mean condoning what happened. It means choosing peace over pettiness. It’s me saying, “Hey, I see your nonsense, but you’re not worth my joy.” It’s a radical act of self-care.

Butter’s Closing Thoughts

At the end of the day, I can’t control how other people act—but I can absolutely control how much access I give them to my peace. When someone’s mean, spreading lies or trying to drag you down, don’t let their actions define you. Don’t let their negativity seep into the sacred space that is your head and your heart.

Because here’s the truth: people like that don’t deserve to rent a corner of your brain, let alone the penthouse suite.

So today, I’m choosing peace. I’m choosing to focus on the people, dreams, and moments that actually matter. And when I look back on my life—whether it’s in five years or on my deathbed at 100—I’ll be proud of myself for not letting some small-minded person steal my light.

And if you’re in the same boat? Join me. It’s way more peaceful over here.

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Why doing right thing is so scary?

January 24, 2025

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Ah, the eternal question: why does doing the right thing feel like signing up for a starring role in a horror movie sometimes? Honestly, it’s because the “right thing” is often the hard thing, and hard things have a knack for making us squirm. Let’s break it down.

1. Fear of Judgment

Sometimes, doing the right thing means swimming against the current, and people love their currents. Standing up for what you believe in—or calling out something wrong—can put a big ol’ spotlight on you, and let’s face it, no one wants to star in the drama titled “Why Did They Do That?” People judge. It’s human nature. But what if their judgment is just a reflection of their discomfort, not your mistake? (Hint: It probably is.)

2. The Risk of Losing Something

Oh, the stakes. They always seem so high when you’re faced with a tough decision. Doing the right thing might mean losing a relationship, a job opportunity, or just your cozy spot in your comfort zone. But here’s the truth bomb: if what you lose can’t survive your integrity, did you ever really have it? (That’s a rhetorical question meant to sound deep—but seriously, think about it.)

3. It’s Uncharted Territory

The right thing often means stepping into unknown territory. Humans love predictability—it’s why we watch the same TV shows over and over. But when you do the right thing, you’re writing your own script, and that’s scary. Who knows what’s on the other side? Spoiler alert: it’s usually growth. Growth is scary too, but oh-so-worth it.

4. It Can Be Lonely

Sometimes, doing the right thing feels like standing on an island, waving your tiny flag of moral integrity while everyone else is chilling on a party boat. It’s easy to wonder if it’s worth it. (It is, by the way.) Remember, though, that loneliness is temporary, but self-respect is forever.

5. It Challenges the Status Quo

The right thing often shakes things up. It pokes the bear of “this is how we’ve always done it” and makes people uncomfortable. And when people are uncomfortable, they resist. Sometimes they resist you. But change starts with discomfort. You’re not just doing the right thing for yourself—you’re setting an example for everyone watching.

So, why is doing the right thing scary?

Because it requires courage. It demands that you prioritize your values over your fears, and that’s not for the faint of heart. But you know what? Fear isn’t the enemy. It’s a sign you’re about to do something meaningful. If it weren’t scary, it wouldn’t be as impactful.

Here’s my pep talk for you: being scared is okay. It means you care. It means you’re awake to the weight of your decisions. And when you feel that fear creeping in, remember this: the best stories—the ones that stick with us, inspire us, and shape us—are always about people who chose courage over comfort.

So, go ahead, wave that little flag. The right thing might not be easy, but it’s always worth it.

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The Art of Saying Yes: A Love Letter to New Ventures

January 22, 2025

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It all started with a simple question from my boss: “Can you handle this?” The “this” in question? Buying lab equipment. Did I know about lab equipment? Nope. Could I rattle off the names of reliable companies, their costs, or negotiation tactics? Double nope. But I said yes anyway.

And that “yes” opened a whirlwind of learning. I made calls, pored over brochures, asked experts (read: I bugged everyone who looked remotely knowledgeable), got multiple quotations, and even learned how to negotiate like I was in a high-stakes Bollywood film. Eventually, I sealed the deal and bought the equipment. Was it easy? Not entirely. Did I stumble? Oh, definitely. But in the end, I learned something invaluable—not just about the process, but about myself.

Here’s the kicker: if my boss hadn’t thrown this at me, I’d have never dipped my toes into the world of equipment buying. And let me tell you, this isn’t a one-off story in my life.

The Power of a Shaky “Yes”

Back in my post-grad days, when my medical school was prepping for NABH accreditation, I volunteered to help the Dean. I wasn’t an expert in checklists, audits, or guidelines. But I stayed up late reading manuals, auditing MRD files, and fumbling my way through accreditation jargon. Today, I can confidently guide any hospital through the process. That shaky “yes” became a life skill.

It’s funny how saying yes can sneakily change your life. I remember the time in school when I said yes to writing a farewell poem, despite knowing zilch about poetry. That small yes nudged me into a lifelong love affair with writing. Or the time I said yes to reading the newspaper at morning prayers, which kickstarted my public speaking journey.

And let’s not even get started on COVID. When I said yes to treating patients during the first wave, I was scared, unprepared, and worried. But that yes gave me lifelong friendships and taught me resilience like nothing else.

Why Saying Yes Matters

Saying yes is scary. It pulls us out of our comfort zones and tosses us into the unknown. But here’s the thing: it’s in the unknown that growth happens. It’s where you stumble into skills, friendships, and memories you’d never have dreamed of. Saying yes doesn’t mean you’ll be perfect—it means you’re willing to try. And trying? That’s where the magic is.

How to Train Your Mind to Say Yes

Of course, saying yes isn’t always easy, especially when you feel unqualified or unprepared. Here are a few tips to help you train your mindset:
1. Reframe Failure as Learning
  Don’t fear failure—embrace it as a stepping stone. Every mistake teaches you something valuable. Instead of thinking, “What if I mess up?” think, “What can I learn from this?”
2. Start Small
  You don’t need to say yes to every giant opportunity right away. Begin with smaller challenges—a new hobby, a small project at work—and build your confidence over time.
3. Trust Your Resourcefulness
  Remember, you don’t need to have all the answers right now. You can ask questions, seek help, and figure it out along the way. Trust that you’ll find a way forward.
4. Visualize Success
  Instead of focusing on how daunting the task feels, picture yourself succeeding. Visualize the outcome—the skills you’ll gain, the people you’ll meet, or the impact you’ll make.
5. Surround Yourself with Encouragement
  Spend time with people who inspire you and push you to try new things. Their confidence in you can work wonders for your own mindset.
6. Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection
  Every step forward, no matter how small, deserves recognition. Celebrate the process rather than obsessing over a flawless outcome.
Yes Is Your Doorway

Saying yes isn’t about overburdening yourself with every single opportunity. It’s about recognizing the ones that excite, scare, or intrigue you, and walking through that doorway even if your knees are shaking. It’s about growth, reinvention, and learning to trust yourself.

So, the next time someone asks you to write a poem, give a speech, buy lab equipment, or take on a project you’re clueless about, don’t hesitate. Say yes. Dive in. You’ll figure it out. And when you do, you might just discover a whole new version of yourself—braver, smarter, and a lot more capable than you ever imagined.

Life’s best adventures often start with an uncertain, wobbly, beautiful “yes.” 💛
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“When Luck Won’t Show Up, Here’s How to Go Find It”

January 21, 2025

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Dear Friend,

Luck. That slippery little thing. Some people seem to have it falling into their laps like free samples at a grocery store. Me? I’ve been wandering the aisles with an empty cart, wondering where everyone else is finding the good stuff.

But today, I’ve decided something: I’m done waiting for luck to find me. No more sitting on the sidelines, crossing my fingers, and hoping the universe throws me a bone. If luck’s playing hard to get, I’m going full detective mode and tracking her down myself.

Here’s the plan to reclaim my life’s sparkle and flip the odds in my favor—even on the gloomiest days.

1. Redefine Luck: It’s Not What You Think

For the longest time, I thought luck was this magical force, like a lottery I wasn’t invited to play. But you know what I’ve learned? Luck isn’t just random—it’s a mix of preparation, mindset, and action. It’s the ability to see opportunities, even when they’re wrapped in chaos and sprinkled with uncertainty.

So, step one is this: stop waiting for a miracle and start creating one. Luck is more like planting seeds than winning jackpots. You’ve got to do the groundwork first.

2. Start Saying “Yes” More

If I’m honest, I’ve been living in my comfort zone, all cozy and predictable. But comfort zones are where luck goes to nap. Lucky things happen when you take risks, try new things, and say “yes” even when your brain is screaming, “This might be a bad idea!”

Saying yes doesn’t mean agreeing to everything—it means opening yourself up to possibility. Join that club, sign up for that workshop, talk to that stranger. Who knows? Your next big break might be hiding behind an awkward “hello.”

3. Create Your Own Momentum

Let’s face it: luck loves movement. It’s not going to hang out with you if you’re stuck in one spot, binge-watching shows and waiting for something magical to happen. (Trust me, I’ve tried.)

I’m making a commitment to keep moving, even when I don’t feel like it. Baby steps count. Sending that email, updating my résumé, writing a single page—they’re all small wins that build momentum. The more energy you put into something, the more you attract opportunities.

4. Adjust the Mindset: From “Why Me?” to “Try Me”

Here’s where I’ve been messing up: every time something went wrong, I’d think, “Why does this always happen to me?”But that mindset? It’s the luck equivalent of walking around with an umbrella in a sunstorm—it blocks out the light.

I’m flipping the script. Every setback isn’t the universe picking on me—it’s a redirection. Didn’t get what I wanted? Fine, maybe there’s something better coming. Missed an opportunity? Lesson learned for next time. Life’s plot twists are just adding depth to the story.

5. Build Relationships (Because Luck Loves People)

I’ve noticed something about lucky people—they always seem to know the right people at the right time. But here’s the kicker: they didn’t get there by accident. They built relationships, made connections, and nurtured them.

So, I’m taking a page from their book. I’ll put myself out there, be genuinely curious about others, and build a network of good vibes and shared dreams. Luck often arrives in the form of people saying, “Hey, I thought of you for this opportunity!”

6. Do the Woo-Woo Stuff (It Can’t Hurt, Right?)

Look, I’m not saying crystals and vision boards will fix everything, but there’s something powerful about focusing your energy on what you want. Manifestation, gratitude journaling, lighting a candle and declaring, “Luck, you better show up!”—it all adds a little magic to the grind.

At the very least, these rituals remind me to stay hopeful. And hope? That’s half the battle.

7. Find Joy, Even When It’s Hard

Here’s the thing about luck: it doesn’t always look like a big win. Sometimes, it’s a small moment—a good laugh, a kind word, or a free coffee from the barista who accidentally made an extra. The more I notice those little moments, the luckier I feel.

So, I’m choosing joy, even on the bad days. I’ll dance in my kitchen, celebrate tiny victories, and treat myself like I’m already the luckiest person alive.

Final Thoughts: Turning Doomsday into Dream Day

Luck isn’t about avoiding the bad stuff—it’s about staying open to the good stuff, even when the sky looks like it’s falling. It’s about showing up, trying again, and laughing through the chaos.

This year, I’m reclaiming my life, one tiny win at a time. I’ll hustle, dream, and maybe even trick luck into thinking I’m too fun to ignore. Because if luck won’t come naturally, I’ll just be too stubborn to give up.

Here’s to the hustle, the hope, and a whole lot of persistence.

Yours,
Butter

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Building a Portfolio That Doesn’t Just Sit—It Works!

January 20, 2025

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Hey friends! Let’s talk money today. Not the kind you blow on impulse buys (hello, that unnecessary 12th coffee mug), but the kind you grow. The goal? A portfolio that’s more than just numbers—it’s a steady, hardworking teammate helping you live your best life.

If you’re sitting there thinking, “I have no idea where to start,” you’re not alone. I’ve been there, too—trial, error, and some facepalms later, I figured out how to make my money work smarter. Let’s break it down, step-by-step, and I’ll even throw in real-world example portfolios so you can see how this works in action.

What’s a Portfolio, and Why Does It Matter?

Your portfolio is your financial buffet—diverse, balanced, and designed to keep you full (read: secure and growing). A good portfolio protects you from life’s ups and downs, grows steadily over time, and lets you sleep peacefully at night, even when markets go wild.

Crafting Your Dream Portfolio

1. Diversify Like You’re Assembling a Thali

A thali has a bit of everything—dal, sabzi, roti, even a pickle for a kick. Your portfolio needs the same variety to balance risk and growth.

Example: A balanced portfolio for a 30-year-old might look like this:
- 50% in Mutual Funds (growth and equity funds)
- 20% in Fixed Deposits or PPF (for stability)
- 15% in ETFs (low-cost exposure to stocks)
- 10% in Gold or Sovereign Gold Bonds (to hedge against inflation)
- 5% in REITs (real estate, without actually buying property)
Why this works: The mutual funds and ETFs push growth, the FDs and PPF add safety, and gold/REITs keep the portfolio stable.

2. Know Your Risk Appetite (a.k.a. Are You the Thrill-Seeker or the Safe Player?)

Your risk tolerance is like your spice tolerance. If you’re young and can handle some financial “heat,” equities and aggressive funds are your best friends. If you’re closer to retirement, think milder, like bonds and fixed deposits.

Example:
- For a 25-Year-Old Beginner:
  - 60% in equity mutual funds
  - 20% in PPF or EPF (safe savings with tax benefits)
  - 10% in gold (for stability)
  - 10% in NPS (long-term retirement savings)
- For a 50-Year-Old Planning Retirement:
  - 50% in bonds or fixed deposits (stable and safe)
  - 20% in equity funds (for controlled growth)
  - 20% in PPF or NPS (long-term stability)
  - 10% in gold or real estate
3. Compounding: The Magic Money Multiplier

Compounding is when your money earns money, and then that money earns more money. The earlier you start, the bigger the snowball gets.

Example: If you invest ₹5,000 a month in an equity mutual fund with an average return of 12% per year:
- In 10 years, you’ll have ₹11.6 lakhs.
- In 20 years, that grows to ₹50.6 lakhs.
- In 30 years, it balloons to ₹1.76 crore!
Lesson? Time is your best friend, so don’t wait. Start with whatever you can today.

4. Inflation-Proof Your Portfolio

Inflation is the villain that shrinks your money’s value over time. Your ₹100 today might only buy you ₹80 worth of stuff tomorrow. To beat it, invest in growth assets like equities and real estate.

Real-Life Portfolio Examples

Portfolio for the Beginner Investor
- 60% Equity Mutual Funds (SIPs in large-cap or index funds)
- 20% PPF (tax benefits and guaranteed returns)
- 10% Gold ETFs or Sovereign Gold Bonds
- 10% Liquid Mutual Funds (for emergencies)
Portfolio for the Ambitious Goal Setter (30s to 40s)
- 50% Equity Mutual Funds (mix of large-cap and mid-cap funds)
- 25% Bonds or NPS (stable, long-term growth)
- 10% Gold (to hedge inflation)
- 10% REITs (real estate exposure without buying property)
- 5% in an International Fund (to diversify beyond India)
Portfolio for the Cautious Near-Retiree (50s+)
- 50% Bonds or Fixed Deposits (stability and liquidity)
- 20% PPF or NPS (long-term safety)
- 15% Equity Mutual Funds (low-risk funds)
- 10% Gold (stability)
- 5% Liquid Funds (for emergencies)
Lessons I Learned (So You Don’t Have To)
- Always, ALWAYS have an emergency fund. Life is unpredictable, and you’ll thank yourself when a rainy day comes.
- Don’t underestimate the power of small investments. Even ₹1,000 a month can snowball into something significant.
- Health insurance isn’t optional. It’s your financial shield in emergencies.
Your Turn to Build Your Financial Future

The journey to financial health starts with one step: action. Whether you’re a beginner or a pro, the key is to start today, even if it’s small. And if you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t worry—I’ve got your back.

I’ve packed all my tips, lessons, and easy-to-follow strategies into my book A Doctor’s Guide to Financial Health. And it’s now available for just ₹99—because I believe good advice shouldn’t cost a fortune.

👉 Click here to grab your copy!

Let’s build a portfolio that works as hard as you do, so you can sit back, relax, and watch your dreams unfold. You’ve got this! 💪
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Money Is Infinite? Let’s Meditate on That (And Maybe Laugh a Little)

January 18, 2025

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So there I was, sitting cross-legged on my living room floor, trying to zen out during a new guided meditation. The candles were lit, the vibes were immaculate, and the calm voice said: “Money is infinite.”

Uh, what now? Infinite, like the refills at Olive Garden? Like Netflix recommendations you’ll never watch? Intrigued, I decided to dive deeper into this idea because, let’s be real, if money is infinite, why does my wallet sometimes feel like a black hole?

The Concept: Money as Energy

Turns out, the “money is infinite” thing isn’t about printing endless Benjamins (sorry, it’s not a get-rich-quick hack). It’s rooted in the idea that money is energy. And like energy, it flows—it comes, it goes, and theoretically, there’s no cap on how much of it can exist in the world. You know, abundance mindset stuff.

The idea challenges the way we’ve been conditioned to think about money: that it’s scarce, hard to earn, and always running out. Instead, it’s about seeing money as a limitless resource that expands when we focus on creating value, sharing generously, and believing we deserve it.

But let’s pause for a moment—because this all sounds lovely in theory. Yet, as someone who’s googled “how to make pasta from scratch with $3 in my bank account,” I know believing in infinite money takes a little mental gymnastics.

My Research Rabbit Hole

When I started researching, I kept coming across people who claimed that shifting their mindset was the key to unlocking financial abundance. Instead of thinking, “I can’t afford that,” they asked, “How can I afford that?” Instead of stressing about bills, they practiced gratitude for what they already had.

And honestly? It makes sense. Ever notice how focusing on what you don’t have just makes you feel worse? But when you start seeing opportunities instead of roadblocks, life feels a little more manageable. It’s like that time I realized my avocado toast addiction wasn’t the reason I couldn’t buy a house—but maybe cutting back on random Amazon purchases could help.

The Funny Side of Infinite Money

Here’s the thing: imagining money as infinite doesn’t mean you should start swiping your credit card like you’re Oprah. (“You get a car! You get a car!”). It’s more about trusting that there’s enough to go around if you align yourself with the flow of abundance.

Still, I couldn’t help but laugh at some practical questions:
- If money is infinite, why does my Wi-Fi bill feel like an infinite struggle?
- Should I stop keeping receipts, or is that still a thing in the abundance universe?
- Can I manifest a latte, or does my barista need actual cash?
Infinite or not, I’ll still tip her—because generosity is a key part of the abundance mindset. (Plus, she makes a mean oat milk cappuccino.)

How to Embrace the Idea

If you’re curious to dip your toe into this money is infinite pool, here are a few things to try:
1. Gratitude First: List three things you already have that bring you joy. (Even if it’s just your favorite coffee mug, a good playlist, or your dog’s goofy grin.)
2. Ask the Right Questions: Instead of thinking about limits, think about possibilities. How can you create more value?
3. Visualize the Flow: Imagine money coming to you, not just as cash, but as opportunities, support, and generosity.
4. Give Freely: Even small acts of giving—like donating $5 to a cause—can help you feel rich in spirit.
Final Thoughts: Is Money Really Infinite?

I think the idea isn’t about turning us into billionaires overnight (though hey, I wouldn’t complain). It’s about shifting our relationship with money—from something scary and scarce to something we can welcome with open arms.

So, while I’m still working on my abundance mindset (and occasionally yelling at my budget spreadsheet), I do find comfort in this idea: money, like life, expands when we approach it with curiosity, creativity, and a little faith.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m off to meditate on abundance. Maybe next time I’ll manifest free guac at Chipotle. Because if money is infinite, guacamole should be too.
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A To-Do List Before I Die: Chasing the Best of Being Human

January 16, 2025

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The other day, I witnessed something that shook me to my core. A neighbor, a kind and gentle soul, passed away after bravely refusing dialysis. I saw him take his last breaths, saw the fragility of life unfold right before my eyes. It was peaceful but heavy. I declared his death. And then, as I stood there in the stillness of it all, a voice inside me whispered:

“Butter, one day, this will be you.”

I’m not going to lie—death is a gloomy thought. But it’s also deeply introspective. If I were lying on my deathbed right now, gasping between life and whatever comes after, would I be proud of how I lived? Would I feel full? Satisfied? Would I say, “Yep, that was it. That’s the life I wanted”?

Honestly… I’m not sure. And that uncertainty feels like a wake-up call.

So here I am, alive, caffeinated, and making a to-do list before I die. A collection of the best human experiences I want to taste, touch, hear, and feel before it’s my turn to head toward the light. Because let’s face it—we don’t know our expiry date. It could be years away or sneaking up on us faster than we’d like to think. Either way, I want to make sure I’ve done the good stuff.

Here’s what’s on my “Before Butter Kicks the Bucket” list:

1. Stand in Awe of Nature’s Majesty

I want to stand beneath the Northern Lights and feel like the sky is throwing me a personal light show. I want to hike through forests so dense they smell like rain and secrets. I want to scream into the Grand Canyon and hear the echoes yell back, “Girl, you’re alive!”

2. Apologize Where It Counts

Not the “Sorry, I bumped into you” kind. The real apologies. The ones that fix bridges I’ve let crumble and soften hearts I might’ve hurt. Imagine going out of this world lighter because you let go of all that emotional baggage.

3. Love Without Safety Nets

I’m not talking about romance alone—I’m talking about loving fiercely, recklessly, without worrying if it’s reciprocated or if it’ll hurt later. Just raw, unapologetic love for people, animals, maybe even pizza.

4. Witness a Sunrise and Sunset in the Same Day

I want to wake up early enough to watch the world yawn into a sunrise and then stick around to see it tuck itself back in with a sunset. A full day where I’m just there, soaking it all up, no distractions.

5. Learn to Dance Like No One’s Watching

Cliché? Sure. But I’ve spent too many parties clinging to the wall because I thought I couldn’t dance. Before I die, I want to fling my arms around, stomp my feet, and look utterly ridiculous while not caring one bit.

6. Write Letters for the Ones I Love

I want to write letters they can open after I’m gone. Letters that say, “Hey, I loved you so much that I’m haunting you with my words.” Funny ones, heartfelt ones, ones they’ll read when they miss me most.

7. Try Something Scary

Skydiving. Shark cage diving. Karaoke night. Something that makes me stare fear in the face and go, “Not today, Satan.”

8. Create Something That Outlives Me

A painting, a book, a blog (hello, dearfeiend.blog!). Something that says, Butter was here, even after I’m not.

9. Sit with Someone in Their Final Moments

Having witnessed death, I now understand how important it is to be there. To hold a hand, say kind words, and make sure no one leaves this world feeling alone.

10. Laugh Until I Cry

It’s such a pure moment when laughter turns into tears, isn’t it? I want more of that, surrounded by people who get my weird jokes.

11. Travel Without a Plan

Just pack a bag and go. No itinerary. No schedules. Just me, a map, and the thrill of discovering what’s out there.

12. Forgive Myself

This one’s tough, but necessary. I need to forgive myself for the mistakes, the bad days, the things I wish I could’ve done differently. If I don’t, I’ll carry them to the grave—and I’d rather not.

13. Plant a Tree

I want to plant something that will grow long after I’m gone, giving shade, oxygen, and a quiet place for someone to sit and think.

14. Watch a Meteor Shower

I want to lie on a blanket, under the stars, and watch meteors streak across the sky. It’ll remind me how small and fleeting we all are, in the best way possible.

15. Say Thank You

To the universe, to the people who’ve shaped me, to the little moments that made life worth living. Gratitude is underrated.

I don’t know when I’ll finish this list, but I know I’m starting now. Life is short, friends. Too short to wait for someday. Let’s make someday today.

What’s on your list? Let me know in the comments—I might want to borrow a few ideas. After all, we’re all just figuring out this life thing together.

Love,

Butter

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“From Werewolves to Wealth: How Butter Became an Author (and Why You Should Read Her Book!)”

January 14, 2025

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Dear friends,

Guess what? I DID IT! 🎉 Your girl Butter has officially joined the ranks of authors with her very first e-book, A Doctor’s Guide to Financial Health: Financial Healing: A Physician-MBA’s Guide to Wealth and Well-Being. This book has been a rollercoaster of dreams, doubts, caffeine-fueled nights, and finally—fulfillment. And the best part? It’s FREE for the next five days! Yes, free as in “no cost, no strings, no guilt for skipping your coffee today.”

The Wild Ride to Becoming an Author
When I first thought about writing a book, let me tell you, this wasn’t it. Nope. My initial idea involved an epic revenge saga featuring werewolves and witches. I had visions of Hollywood calling—”Butter, your story is the next big blockbuster!” But alas, my wolves sounded more like whiny puppies.

Then I considered becoming the next Agatha Christie with a mystery thriller about a mass murderer, where I’d swoop in as the clever sleuth to save the world. But my detective skills max out at finding my lost car keys, so that idea fizzled.

I even toyed with writing an Indian cookbook about balanced nutrition (funny, considering my idea of “balance” is having equal parts butter and bread). There was also a fleeting moment when I thought an autobiography might work—but let’s face it, my most dramatic chapter would be the time I burned my popcorn while binge-watching Netflix. Not exactly gripping material.

Finally, I thought: What’s something that can truly help the people I care about? And there it was—this e-book. It combines my experiences as a physician and MBA, offering a straightforward guide to navigating the often-daunting world of finances while keeping your well-being intact.

Why You Should Read This Book
This isn’t just a book. It’s a love letter to all of you—my friends, colleagues, and anyone out there feeling a bit lost in the financial jungle. It’s practical, relatable, and full of the same warmth I bring to our coffee chats. ☕ Whether you’re just starting to think about savings, managing debt, or planning for the future, there’s something in here for you.

And did I mention it’s FREE for five days? (Okay, I know I did, but come on, how often do we get anything free these days?)

A First-Time Author’s Heartfelt Plea
Now, I’m not just asking you to download the book—I’m asking you to read it. Give it a chance. Let me know what you think. Your feedback, your thoughts, your stories—they mean the world to me. You’ve inspired me every step of the way, and now I’m dying to hear what you think of this book.

Leave a review, send me a message, or even text me with a “Hey, I read your book, and here’s what I think!” Every word matters. Every voice matters. And you, my friends, matter most of all. 💖

Get Your Copy Here
👉 A Doctor’s Guide to Financial Health

So, what are you waiting for? Go grab your copy, pour yourself a cup of tea (or wine, no judgment), and let’s start this journey to financial healing together.

With all my love and excitement,
Butter

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The Great Wi-Fi Breakdown of 2025: Butter vs. the Internet Void

January 11, 2025

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There I was, minding my own business, writing a blog post about the importance of modern connectivity when BAM! The Wi-Fi went down. At first, I thought it was just a hiccup—a blip in the matrix. A quick reset of the router would fix it, right? Wrong. This was no ordinary outage. This was a full-blown Wi-Fi blackout that lasted three days. Three. Whole. Days.

Do you know what happens when a 21st-century human loses internet access? Chaos. Utter chaos.

Day 1: Denial and Delusion

The first few hours, I was convinced it was a minor issue. “This is fine,” I told myself, staring at the blinking red light on my router. “A quick fix.” Spoiler: it was not fine.

When the realization hit, I went through the five stages of grief at lightning speed:

1. Denial: “This can’t be happening. My ISP wouldn’t do me like this!”

2. Anger: “How dare they! I pay good money for this service!”

3. Bargaining: “Maybe if I unplug and replug the router for the 40th time, the internet gods will bless me.”

4. Depression: “What’s the point of anything if I can’t even Google it?”

5. Acceptance: “Fine. I’ll just… read a book or something. Do people still do that?”

Day 2: The Handicapped Modern Human

Day two was when the reality of my dependence on the internet smacked me square in the face.

• Groceries? Can’t order them. Turns out, I didn’t even know the phone number for the local store.

• Work? Forget blogging—I couldn’t even think of a topic without my trusty search engine. I sat staring at a blank Word doc like it owed me money.

• Entertainment? No Netflix. No YouTube. I tried watching regular TV, but it felt like eating stale bread when you’re used to sourdough fresh from the oven.

Worst of all, my stock market trading—my side hustle!—was a disaster. I had no idea whether my shares were soaring or sinking. Every minute offline felt like a missed opportunity (or a lost fortune). I even considered walking to the library to use their free Wi-Fi, but let’s be honest, I couldn’t remember where it was.

Day 3: Adaptation and Strange Joy

By the third day, something miraculous happened: I… adapted. Don’t get me wrong—this wasn’t some “aha!” moment of enlightenment. It was more of a reluctant surrender to my tech-free reality.

• I rediscovered my love of journaling (on actual paper! With a pen!).

• I went for a long walk and noticed things I hadn’t in years—like how my neighbor’s dog growls at literally everyone.

• I sat on the balcony with a cup of coffee and stared into the distance. It was strangely meditative, although I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t imagining my Wi-Fi icon coming back to life.

By the time the internet was finally restored, I had a new perspective. Sure, life without Wi-Fi feels impossible at first, but it’s also a reminder of how tethered we’ve become to our screens. Those three days forced me to slow down, get creative, and confront how much I rely on a steady connection to function.

What I Learned from the Breakdown

1. Plan B is essential: Have offline backups of critical information—like grocery lists, recipes, or emergency phone numbers. I’m now the proud owner of a physical notebook labeled “In Case of Wi-Fi Apocalypse.”

2. Real-world connections matter: I finally visited a friend who lives ten minutes away because I couldn’t text her. It was… delightful.

3. It’s okay to unplug sometimes: I wouldn’t choose a Wi-Fi breakdown, but it taught me that stepping away from the digital world is more refreshing than I realized.

A Note to My Future Self

Dear Butter,

If this ever happens again, remember: you survived it once, and you can survive it again. The world doesn’t end without Wi-Fi—it just feels like it does. Breathe, adapt, and maybe invest in a backup mobile hotspot.

To anyone reading this, I hope you never experience the Great Wi-Fi Breakdown, but if you do, lean into the chaos. Who knows? You might rediscover some simple joys… or at least find out where your library is.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to catch up on three days’ worth of internet. Priorities, you know?

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Power #1: Teleportation (a.k.a. Poof! I’m Gone)

Power #2: Mind Reading (a.k.a. The Gossip Goldmine)

Power #3: Time Manipulation (a.k.a. Ctrl+Z for Life)

Power #4: Shape-Shifting (a.k.a. Become My Cat)

Power #5: Summoning Anything (a.k.a. The Lazy Witch’s Dream)

The Final Verdict

The Power of a Shaky “Yes”

Why Saying Yes Matters

How to Train Your Mind to Say Yes

Yes Is Your Doorway

1. Redefine Luck: It’s Not What You Think

2. Start Saying “Yes” More

3. Create Your Own Momentum

4. Adjust the Mindset: From “Why Me?” to “Try Me”

5. Build Relationships (Because Luck Loves People)

6. Do the Woo-Woo Stuff (It Can’t Hurt, Right?)

7. Find Joy, Even When It’s Hard

Final Thoughts: Turning Doomsday into Dream Day

What’s a Portfolio, and Why Does It Matter?

Crafting Your Dream Portfolio

1. Diversify Like You’re Assembling a Thali

2. Know Your Risk Appetite (a.k.a. Are You the Thrill-Seeker or the Safe Player?)

3. Compounding: The Magic Money Multiplier

4. Inflation-Proof Your Portfolio

Real-Life Portfolio Examples

Portfolio for the Beginner Investor

Portfolio for the Ambitious Goal Setter (30s to 40s)

Portfolio for the Cautious Near-Retiree (50s+)

Lessons I Learned (So You Don’t Have To)

Your Turn to Build Your Financial Future

The Concept: Money as Energy

My Research Rabbit Hole

The Funny Side of Infinite Money

How to Embrace the Idea

Final Thoughts: Is Money Really Infinite?